This is a bad post. Polyamory is NOT about sex and it’s NOT a fetish.

It can work extremely well and be extremely loving if done correctly. The problem is, it’s not as easy as people often think it is when trying to idealize it.

Communication is extremely important in every relationship and that only multiplies when you have more than one partner.

If you have a feeling of jealousy… Talk about it…

If you don’t think your partner is spending enough time with you… Talk about it…

If you aren’t enjoying sex with your partner… TALK ABOUT IT!

I’ve been with my fiancé for almost 4 years, my bf and I are celebrating our 1 year next month, and I have a new first date next Wednesday. My fiancé has even been with their nesting partner (who is monogamous) for 8 years now.

This all happened because we have clear ground rules and boundaries as well as active communication.

I’ve never felt more loved than when my fiancé helped me pick out my outfit for my first date with my bf.

I love them both so tremendously and it pisses me off when people tell me that isn’t possible or that all I care about is sex.

I’m admittedly biased as the person who posted this but also… I don’t see this as sexy.

I agree that it could be fetishized but I wouldn’t describe the image itself as fetishizing and moreso just acknowledging the existence of the feminine penis.

I don’t know if I would say downsides but for me it just didn’t work at all. I imagine it works well for loads of people but all it did for me was make me look for more scientific reasons to hate myself. Hence saying that Maurice could cite sources.

Instead of “your art is bad” I would be thinking of every little detail I was doing wrong individually as well as convincing myself that I will never be able to shake those issues. Other stuff did end up helping but that specifically wasn’t for me.

For a while in therapy we tried personifying my self hate and giving those thoughts an actual name. In my case that name was Maurice and I do not remember why. That was every time a negative thought happened I could be like “No Maurice, you’re an idiot. I won’t listen to you.”

Unfortunately it turns out Maurice can cite sources.

Reload the last save (day 6)