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  • Hey,

    I was thinking about this earlier, thank you for making this post.

    I had a lot of the same questions in my mid-20s. I had graduated university, started working, made some money, so I could afford going back to Vietnam two times for around a month each time. It was great. Being in a place where everyone looks like you, speaks the language you speak at home, eats the food you eat at home. It’s a very unique experience, only immigrants understand what it is.

    I liked it so much I even considered living in Vietnam for a few years. I started looking at visas, jobs, etc. I had a few leads. Then COVID happened and stopped all of that. A few years passed.

    Post-COVID, I was almost 30, and decided that being closer to my family and friends in Europe was more important than living in Vietnam. I still moved to a much bigger city to have a more multicultural environment, met my girlfriend there, we’ve been together for a few years now, we are happy together.

    She’s not Vietnamese, and that’s fine. I came to terms with the idea of marrying a second generation Vietnamese when I decided to stay in Europe. It’s a numbers game in the end, and the Vietnamese population is just not large enough in Europe for it to happen. Not really something I can change at my level, and I’m happy with that anyway. I still speak Vietnamese to my parents, I visit them every few months. They are aging, and they are also happier to have me in Europe rather that all the way over there in Vietnam.

























  • Thank you for the post!

    Short introduction on my side: 2nd generation Vietnamese, my parents left Vietnam in the 80s due to the war and its aftermath. Saigon, my username, is the former name of the capital of South Vietnam, renamed Ho-Chi-Minh city after the war.

    Born and raised in Europe.

    Happy to be here, even if the activity is not that high, I’m sure it will still be a nice place to chat!