WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

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Cake day: December 31st, 2023

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  • its like eating chocolate and saying you like chocolate but someone says they dont and its bad and you should feel bad for liking chocolate because they dont like it

    I’m allergic to chocolate, so how dare you just rubbing your delicious chocolate in my face? 😡 /s

    JK. I’d be glad to see positive posts about desserts, regardless of my real or hypothetical allergies may be.

    i know society had decided women are acceptable targets for abuse and offloading misery onto, but they do infact have their own lives and interiority and are infact more than just objects

    I feel like its a broader problem. No exactly sure why its often easier to have negative engagement than positive engagement, but seems to be the case. TBF, I think a lot of the time I see positive stuff, I either just upvote. Sometimes I’ll do a sorta generic “congrats!”-tier message, but it feels like it would just be a waste of that person’s time (even if I’d probably prefer getting that kind of response vs a few upvotes and no replies).








  • Federation is less friction imo. If you want to message someone who has a signal account, you have the friction of making yet another account to message them. If you then want to message someone who uses whatsapp, you need to make yet another account to message them. Etc, etc. That seems far worse than the awkwardness of trying to interact with microblog activitypub platforms within threadiverse activitypub platforms. Granted, you still have multiple federation standards (ie: email, activitypub, matrix) that don’t directly interact at all (although that might be for the best).

    With federated platforms, you can message anyone using the same federation standard. Unfortunately, there’s more than one, so you need an email address to message anyone else who uses email regardless of whether they’re icloud or google or aol or self-host. But you can’t email someone using activitypub or matrix directly. And even within activitypub, its far from seamless to interact between different parts (piefed/mbin/lemmy all work pretty well together, but interactions between more different parts because more awkward).



  • Work is great, people are forced to talk to you

    Downside is the boundaries are narrower at work and if you do cross them, it makes the whole thing a lot more creepy and could have more potential consequences in a place that doesn’t just tolerate workplace sexual harassment.

    I do wonder how many guys are unaware of how creepy some things might be because of their own experiences. Like, I had a guy show up at my work before normal hours while I was alone to try to hit on me and did so by asking such wonderful questions as “are you alone?” and “how often are you alone?” (along with a consecutive series of several other similar flags). And yet I can’t help but wonder if he had no clue how creepy someone would find such. Honestly, I didn’t even think the interaction was creepy until I realized he was trying to hit on me without actually showing any interest in me beyond my body, when it would be alone, and its opinion on reporting SA. I don’t get how someone could possibly think that’s a good way to try to hook up with someone no matter how “friendly” or “nice” you are in the interaction, and yet that wasn’t the last time he tried. Maybe I just don’t get hook-up culture or something.