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  • djmikeale@feddit.dktome_irl@lemmy.worldMe_irl
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    6 days ago

    It’s ok. Your psychologist knows. We all have stuff we don’t want other people to know.

    The nice way of thinking about it is that you’re just not comfortable opening up yet, and that’s ok. Literally just say “there’s stuff I’m not comfortable sharing with you yet”, and then talk a bit about your feelings, and expectations.








  • As written by 80000 hours:

    To maximise your impact, work on areas (1) that are large in scale, (2) that others neglect, and (3) where it’s possible to make progress. Many people fail to compare the scale of different problems, work on the same problems as everyone else, and support programmes with no evidence of impact. Link

    So yeah, global warming is important, but so are other issues, eg preventing disease and hunger.

    What I find interesting, that isn’t mentioned in your quote by Bill: There’s other threats that I’d find to be more important though, e.g. threats from AI/AGI, bioweapons, nuclear weapons, pandemics… but perhaps these don’t need capital as much as they need to have people working for organisations that try and solve these issues.





  • I tried cognitive behavioural therapy which helped with a bunch of other stuff, but didn’t help me get to the root of my core challenges. I’m with one now which does the following (according to her website):

    Theoretically, I am grounded in the psychodynamic tradition and the neuroaffective understanding of attachment and emotional development.

    I realized the books I’ve read and got a lot out of may only exist in Danish: “Drop opdragelsen” and “derfor forelsker du dig aldrig i den forkerte”


  • I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.

    So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.