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Dude on the left pulls it off, dude on the right does not, imo.
Look up “Beau Brummely” and “Great Renunciation”.
US southern-prep khakis, blazer, shirt and tie, slightly longer hair is pretty much the exact look Brummely and his dandies created and socially enforced through mockery.
Some people claim that the underlying force granting Brummely the ability to do so had to do with the center of power shifting from traditional nobility to financiers.
Well you’re probably younger and more fit and wearing stuff that’s five years out of date instead of thirty five.
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?"
10·1 day agoI understand not wanting to be used on tap like that.
Like, “hey I’m over my depth here and I trust you” is very different from “I’m bored I bet I could lay that guy”, which is more what it sounds like.
Maybe look for a dog park near you or volunteer at a local animal shelter?
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?"
411·1 day agoSo, it makes a ton more sense once you’ve been the person trying to get somebody to take the lead in an intimate physical encounter.
A big part of the dynamic there is that as the person who wants to concede the initiative, you want to make sure that the other person is really actually committed to the thing you’re thinking about. Getting kissed by someone who’s thinking about smash bros isn’t fun.
You know how there’s a trope where it’s satisfying for a beloved to be able to wipe their lover’s mind of anything else by looking them in the eyes a certain way? That sense of being desired in a compelling way is really important for a lot of people.
So, when somebody makes a gesture like that, it’s intended to hit different depending on where you are chemically. If you had been completely beguiled at that point, you probably would have goggled and stammered like Don Knotts and she would have said something like “come here, sit down”.
And we all know that some people trying to get off will absolutely fake that level of interest. I think it might make sense for people looking for a longer term connection to find themselves doing this, cause one of the fastest ways to fall in love is to have emotionally connected sex.
I was once at a woman’s place and we had talked for a while and ended up on her bed with her in underwear and a bra, lying with her head on my arm and her hand on my chest, she says “I’m horny” and I think “oh whoops I better head out so she can get herself off” and LEFT.
Useless lesbian, right? But also, maybe it’s better that the two of us didn’t have sex, because I didn’t really feel compelled to, she wouldn’t have wanted to unless I had felt that way, and now we can see each other around and we might feel a little awkward around each other but we didn’t get into a mismatched situation in terms of investment that night (I think?).
I’ve been in other similar situations where I didn’t particularly care what the other person’s emotional state was and just asked them to do what I wanted done to me.
This is all subconscious in nearly all cases imo, I’ve just been doing this a long time.
If you can, make friends with a dog and adopt that attitude towards the dog. It will pay you back five times over.
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?"
681·1 day agoGood to know that straight men do this too, cause this is an absolutely classic lesbian scenario.
His singing voice is pretty polarizing I’d say, a lot of people don’t like it.
I slot them right next to Imagine Dragons; commercial pop rock, all their shit sounds the same, it’s scenery, I don’t need to go watch em for two hours or buy an album but it doesn’t bother me.
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Ask Lemmy@sh.itjust.works•What careers did the shittiest people you know personally get into?English
3·2 days agoPetty crime / addiction honestly
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name@lemmy.world•Makes sense!
131·2 days agoMusicians and actors tend to get plenty of dates if they want them, I don’t think this is some utopian thing.
Starting a band to meet girls in high school/college is a trope for a reason.
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Technology@lemmy.world•As Microsoft Forces Users to Ditch Windows 10, It Announces That It’s Also Turning Windows 11 into an AI-Controlled MonstrosityEnglish
31·2 days agoXerox, AT&T, sometimes companies die
Is this ai art?
Obviously the writing is a person…
I live in California where the normal color for grass is a pale brown.
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The Progress Pride flag is right there for that purpose.