Fair, but then blanked assuming this, sounds like the wrong approach, But I am not about to teach you how to act on the internet; you do you. Before your accusation, there was a nice explanation that helped me understand, thanks for that.
Oohhh we are both interpreting this differently! Okay now I get and yeah youre right. Then I misread this.
I understood this as ‘10 years ago it was like that and you’d have to eat it, and now, people can just tell them they are wrong because of the progress in the field’
I didn’t think of it as "I can finally tell people who told me it was being rash 10 years ago to suck it.
Makes more sense tbh :/ sorry for misinterpreting this.
But not everyone is a troll who has a different view of you, I just understood it differently
I am struggling to understand why approaching any topic with calm and critical thinking instead of potentially rash action based on potentially temporary feelings is toxic?
If you’re internally dating to be queer for a long time, that clearly is not a temporary situation. If you then talk to someone and they throw that statement, of course, they can go f themselves.
My critique is that this phrase is very general and not healthy to just put out there in a general context. Words mean things, in general. This is not a phrase like arbeit macht frei or something that is obviously used in bad faith. The phrase is, in my opinion, reasonable.
I am sharing that, in my experience, if I had used this approach on everything my friends or family have said, I would not be where I am today, and I definitely regret a LOT of decisions that I thankfully avoided because people told me to go slow and think critically before acting. or “Not acting on a potentially temporary feeling”.
If my experience is unhealthy to you, so be it, but it’s not toxic to tell you what or how I have made positive experiences hearing this phrase. To me, especially how it’s drawn here the character with the stamp is being toxic. Dismissing without asking someone who is calmly saying something. Depict the saying character in a dismissive or hostile way? Fair point.
I used to be in the queer community more, but was trying to get away from the internet in general after experiencing just … general hostility to any challenge to any kind of established thought or trend.
With this context, I would also agree with the meme. And obviously, in your situation, encouragement would be much better. I was also in a situation of being dismissed, and I believed the people saying these things too.
But I also remember friends of mine appealing to my critical thinking, like: “Okay, maybe think about this some more instead of doing the first thing that seems like you want to do”. I wouldn’t be here if I just dismissed all those critiques as well, just because they are phrased as in this meme…
What exactly does this phrasing not apply to? It is phrased as a blanket statement, and that’s what I don’t think is healthy. If this said “your gender is for sure just a temporary phase,” and someone stamped that as wrong, I would agree with the stamping.
You might be right that I am just splitting hairs, but I find the phrasing generalistic and toxic. I think a blanket statement, like the one shown here, without any other context, should not be taken as gospel. That is a critique of me personally.
I also absolutely agree with what you are saying, but only in that context that you are describing.
… Now that I am reading this back I might be overinterpreting internet culture, I am not into memes as I used to so maybe the context is more obvious than I am used to…
As in? “Your current feelings might be a temporary state of mind” is a sensible thing to say. Dismissing that in a general context, as this meme does, is ,IMO ,not healthy. I think it’s a slippery slope argument. In addition to what I wrote before, it also seems like a really easy way to dismiss any critique about sudden courses of action.
Edit: I misinterpreted this! It’s someone saying ‘you’re being dumb’ and the character telling them, 10 years later, to suck it.
I originally thought that the meme meant to say:
10 years ago, you wouldn’t have been able to dismiss people saying this because of the lack of progress in the field/community.
And that now, 10 years later, you can dismiss these statements outright.
Thx @[email protected] for the explanation. But I am not a troll just because I didn’t understand it the same way you did instantly :)
Original comment:
This is a really bad approach as a blanket statement :/ Yes, a phase can be permanent (I got out of my ‘its temporary’ mindset as well and now know its permanent), but this is not a general rule.
Relationship not going perfectly? That may be permanent or just a phase, but you should definitely not assume just because you suddenly have a drop that it is permanent! Most of life goes through highs and lows, especially in social contexts.
This is, IMO, a seriously toxic approach. “I’ve had a disagreement with something with my lifelong best friend, now I am angry with him so I will immediately end the entire relationship because of this temporary issue without putting any work into resolving misunderstandings.” This sounds so entitled I can’t even. Put effort into issues, see if you can resolve temporary feelings or problems. Find out, calmly, if they are temporary or permanent for yourself.
Don’t make rash decisions under uncertainty. Don’t make permanent decision based on temporary situations. Think first.
This applies just the same with your own secuality. Calmly think for yourself. OFC others should stfu.
So, whether this is a good or a bad thing hinges on the question of whether they are willing to maintain the code/features they have produced? As it stands, their course of action, even if they are only contributing code for features they want to have, is “better than nothing,” I think? Would it be significantly better if they didn’t contribute anything from the get-go? As it stands, I would stand on the side of “careful optimism” that they will maintain whatever they are building, but only time will tell…
As an Austrian, the fact that they are doing anything sensible at all within the digital world is astonishing to me.
Ohne datenklaumauer: 12ft.io/https://www.heise.de/news/Android-Google-erschwert-die-Entwicklung-von-Custom-ROMs-10444392.html
Die Begründung warum der tree nicht dabei ist is … Sehr hohl, wirkt wie politisch korrekt aber dodged komplett die frage
This is exactly what my masters thesis feels like ATM, every attention is on all the AI crap also because the Uni gets grants ont the topic. Everything else just dies
Depends on your country and the law. In the EU AFAIK this would be classified as medical and illegal to query without your consent. And I’ve never heard of anyone who isn’t a doctor getting such a request.
Doctors usually get a ‘required to be vaccinated’ thingy, but else? Never heard of it.
Ah, I accidentally read over that you used free -m.
By top 3 services do you also include any programs ? For me htop itself already consumes 10 MB, what other processes are running ?
Are you certain its actual ram usage and not reserved ?
Usually when a program requests huge amounts of ram it is not given it until it actually writes to it.
Try running free and check what it says.
… Wild guess, but this looks like ram failure…
I am A big fan of Vivaldi and its built-in email client ^^ Works like a charm for me.
Maybe I Am just reading this wrong, but I have no idea by the description what this is about. Accessibility, yeah sure, but what’s that about corners and tunnel vision? The blind community? Tunnel vision is an attention phenomenon, not a vision imperative?
I Am confused
Nicht mit der Wortwahl xD es kann mega sein, aber das hört sich an als wär ich ein Bediensteter der Arbeit zuhause antrifft.
This looks awesome, especially in theory! Sadly I got big (average for my height) hands so I can feel my hands ache just looking at those tiny buttons xD