I feel only comfortable posting it here. Shows how much I like this place, and how much I trust you gays to actually know your stuff. And yeah, I’m posting it here because where else, this is gender type shit.
Since Deltarune launched, and now even stronger since Ch3+4, I’ve associated with Ralsei very strongly. Just like me, he’s basically an emotional wreck, who knows too much and tries to hide his pain. At the same time, his friends are his world and mean everything to him, just like mine to me. I even want to be like him, just a cute guy who loves to serve his friends and loved ones. So much so, that I feel like I’m projecting onto him way, way too hard. There are plenty people with a “ralsei is a transfem egg” headcannon, and I don’t know why, but stuff like that makes me feel uncomfrotable.
Like, when I’m seeing this stuff I feel as being asked to be someone I’m not. It’s just a fictional character, the dude supposedly doesn’t even really exist in the world he’s from. People can make him out whoever the fuck they want him to be. So why do I feel this way?
At the same time, I feel as existing itself as who I want to be is difficult. The gender norms required of cis men exhaust and sadden me, and if I don’t fit into them I’m going to be targeted. Right now I’m just a guy, when I want to be 🌺𝒿𝓊𝓈𝓉 𝒶 𝑔𝓊𝓎🌺. Even then, trying to browse for makeup guides, or clothing styles makes me feel, unfulfilled, empty, and left guessing (Add some anxiety to that for some reason, maybe I’m overthinking the whole living in Poland thing). It’s mostly either with femboys in mind, you know the one singular aesthetic that feels like a porn category. Or you know, just outright for women. And I’m not a woman, egg discourse annoys me because of that. I feel stuck, like I don’t fit in within heteronormative spaces or queer spaces.
Maybe that’s why I like Ralsei so much. I’ve never seen something like me outside of myself before.
Am I a cishet queer thing? What the fuck even am I?
FWIW, I feel I’ve been in a very similar headspace for many years. It’s actually a real struggle to be a man doing things outside the masculine stereotype (and probably true to varying degrees for any gender acting outside their stereotype). I don’t consider myself trans - I just want to do stuff that isn’t the cultural norm.
In my personal case, it’s why, despite the fact I’d say I’m a man generally, I’ve otherwise tried to eschew gender labels. Because it feels like any label at all suddenly sets people with cultural expectations of me. And that is frustrating.
Ralsei’s fucking awesome by the way, I dig his clothing and want it.
That’s why I’ve found myself not fitting into “dude spaces” and avoid socializing at my uni. These people not only scare me, but make me feel uncomfortable. I had best experiences with “outcasts” like me, and even then I felt unlike them.
I wish sending photos of my cosplay wasn’t a stupid idea. He makes me look awesome.
Very fair, dang, I’m already super envious without even needin’ to see it.